Comments on: When someone breaks your baby’s heart http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/2008/when-someone-breaks-your-babys-heart/ The culinary adventures of a real food fanatic Thu, 26 Apr 2012 10:48:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: olddani http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/2008/when-someone-breaks-your-babys-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-135 olddani Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:26:41 +0000 http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/?p=151#comment-135 Oh poor T. 6 is far too young to be writing Dear John letters. Gosh girl's are scary creatures with their psychological weapons. It think this behaviour is worse than it was when I was young though. It just didn't happen that much in my primary school. Perhaps is the sexualisation of children that exacerbates it? I must admit I spend so much time at the kinder for the same reasons. I need to know what goes on! I know it will happen again and again and it will get easier for him to bear but I don't relish that thought. It's like each time a little part of his beautiful soul shuts down and hardens. I was impressed with the way he (slowly) processed it all. It's his sensitivity and gentle spirit that so sets him apart from other boys and I hate seeing hat part of him attacked. Urgh, I never thought I'd be such a cotton wool Mum. Oh poor T. 6 is far too young to be writing Dear John letters. Gosh girl’s are scary creatures with their psychological weapons. It think this behaviour is worse than it was when I was young though. It just didn’t happen that much in my primary school. Perhaps is the sexualisation of children that exacerbates it? I must admit I spend so much time at the kinder for the same reasons. I need to know what goes on!

I know it will happen again and again and it will get easier for him to bear but I don’t relish that thought. It’s like each time a little part of his beautiful soul shuts down and hardens. I was impressed with the way he (slowly) processed it all. It’s his sensitivity and gentle spirit that so sets him apart from other boys and I hate seeing hat part of him attacked.

Urgh, I never thought I’d be such a cotton wool Mum.

]]> By: Em http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/2008/when-someone-breaks-your-babys-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-136 Em Mon, 03 Mar 2008 11:01:13 +0000 http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/?p=151#comment-136 btw, can you imagine how much I wanted to see that library note? A 6yo can't write, FFS. I asked him and he said he left it in the library, but that I wouldn't have been able to read it anyway. What is with that? Do the Year 6's conduct how-to-dump-your-friends classes for Year 1's behind the toilet blocks? This is the reason that I'm spending 5+ hours a week volunteering to help in their classroom; so I can find out what really goes on *cackle*. Whoops, better put my smiley face back on ;) btw, can you imagine how much I wanted to see that library note? A 6yo can’t write, FFS. I asked him and he said he left it in the library, but that I wouldn’t have been able to read it anyway. What is with that? Do the Year 6′s conduct how-to-dump-your-friends classes for Year 1′s behind the toilet blocks?

This is the reason that I’m spending 5+ hours a week volunteering to help in their classroom; so I can find out what really goes on *cackle*. Whoops, better put my smiley face back on ;)

]]> By: Em http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/2008/when-someone-breaks-your-babys-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Em Mon, 03 Mar 2008 10:54:44 +0000 http://www.thekitchenplayground.com/?p=151#comment-137 Oh Dani :( Is it any comfort for you to know that it will happen again, and that he will probably find a way of accepting it and not being heartbroken? A good friend of ours has a song "It's not gonna be fair, but it's goin' to be ok..." Sing to whatever tune you chose. Funnily enough it does help them. The "you're (not) my friend" thing seems to happen over and over to my boys when they are friends with girls, and it used to upset them. Now it puzzles them but they kind of accept it (sadly) and go off to play with someone else. And still play with the girl when she changes her mind and returns days later. I have to breath deeply b/c it seems SO freaking cruel. But the boys do seem to process or accept it these days. Sometimes 6yo T says that he is sad. Like today, his new(ish) good friend E gave him a note in the library to say that she wasn't going to play with him anymore b/c she has agreed to play with her girlfriend R from now on. He said he was sad b/c he liked playing with her and now he will be alone. But he says he doesn't mind playing on his own. (Insert even more tears from his mother...) I wish with all my heart that my beautiful boys didn't have to go through this, but I think they will be ok. xxx Oh Dani :(

Is it any comfort for you to know that it will happen again, and that he will probably find a way of accepting it and not being heartbroken?

A good friend of ours has a song “It’s not gonna be fair, but it’s goin’ to be ok…” Sing to whatever tune you chose. Funnily enough it does help them.

The “you’re (not) my friend” thing seems to happen over and over to my boys when they are friends with girls, and it used to upset them. Now it puzzles them but they kind of accept it (sadly) and go off to play with someone else. And still play with the girl when she changes her mind and returns days later.

I have to breath deeply b/c it seems SO freaking cruel. But the boys do seem to process or accept it these days. Sometimes 6yo T says that he is sad. Like today, his new(ish) good friend E gave him a note in the library to say that she wasn’t going to play with him anymore b/c she has agreed to play with her girlfriend R from now on. He said he was sad b/c he liked playing with her and now he will be alone. But he says he doesn’t mind playing on his own. (Insert even more tears from his mother…)

I wish with all my heart that my beautiful boys didn’t have to go through this, but I think they will be ok.

xxx

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